About Me:
Hello, my name is Jackie Paulson. I am a 47 year old single mother born on 12-12-1966 with the zodiac sign of Sagittarius. The one thing I find true for me that stands out in the traits of the zodiac sign is “Knowledge is power.” I love to read and learn from others as a life Long knowledge and truth-seeker. The reason why I blog is to mainly network and share knowledge with others. My passion is reading and research so this helps me to share what I know. I can read 167 pages of any book in two hours with complete comprehension of what I have read. I was not always a good reader and that all changed once I got married. The reason it changed is because I wanted to “fix” my husband at that time. He was a drinker and so was I. Of course I did not think I had a problem I thought he did. What I did was to get my hands on every self-help book I could get my hands on to learn how to “fix” my husband, because I loved him. I wanted him to change or to stop drinking. Eventually, I was invited to an Alcohol Anonymous meeting with a friend and I took her upon the offer. I have to admit my only goal was to “fix” my husband’s drinking problem. What I found out was that I could not “fix” anyone but “myself.” Low and behold, I changed and quit drinking and my husband did not. I learned how I could “detach” from my husband and his drinking and fill the void with things that “I” loved to do.
I got married on 2-22-92 and got divorced on 3-26-95 and I had our baby on 2-14-94. Yes, a short marriage to an alcoholic, a divorce with a 1-year-old which led me to being a single mother working three Jobs just to survive. My ex husband was unfaithful in our marriage which led to our divorce. I was born and raised Catholic and divorce was not an option unless he broke one of the Ten Commandments and since he did I was free to divorce and remarry, which I have not. I received “sole custody” of our daughter and raised her the best way I knew how and now she is going to be 18 on Valentine’s Day 2012. Yes, I am a Proud Mother!
Okay, so to make a long story short, I have been in an ongoing battle to get child support from my ex husband and he has been remarried and has a 11-year-old son. Here it is 2012 and my ex owes me over 79,650.04 as of 11/10/2012. You wonder how come so much? He is Delinquent and when that happens there is penalties and interest that built up over the years. What is crazy is how “dead beat dads” like him can live “knowing” they do not support the child they helped to create into this world. It takes “two” to have a child and it take’s “two” to support a child. I did my part by raising her the best way I could, working many jobs to make ends meet, and taking on all the responsibility that a single parent does, and then my ex did not see what I had to do just to survive. So, if he did care he would have paid his child support, “actions speak louder than words.”
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A-Z Getting to Know You
A – Age: 46
B – Book you are reading: The Bible
C – Chore you hate: VACUUMING, it’s too loud
D – Dessert you love: Banana Bread
E – Essential start your day item: Positive attitude, Scripture reading, Make-up
F – Favorite author/ book: Joel Osteen, Dan Brown, Ann Rule, Iris Johansen
G – Gold or silver: BOTH
H – Height: 5’1”
I – Instruments you play: Guitar
J – Job title: Security Agent
K – Kid(s): 1
L – Living arrangements: Basement apartment
M – Most overused word/phrase in your vocabulary: Yes, I will do it
N – Nicknames: Jack, book lover
O – Overnight hospital stay other than birth: 0
P – Pet Peeve: People who talk about themselves, all about me me me mentality
Q- Quotes you like: be the change you want to see in the world by M Gandhi
R – Right or left-handed: Right
S – Siblings: Chris, Sean, Gina, Jackie, Julie, JoAnn, Courtney
T – Time you woke up today: 3:00 afternoon, I am not a AM person
U – Unique thing about you: I have beautiful Hair
V – Vegetable you love: ALL
W – Worst habit: Expecting too my out of myself
X – X-rays you’ve had: 0
Y – Yummy food you make: Spaghetti
Z – Zodiac Sign: Sagittarius
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Thanks for the follow, Jackie! Looking forward to your book reviews.
Hello you have great blog here Keep writing and enjoy.Nice to meet here
Cyril
Hi Jackie! Thanks for choosing to follow another one of my blogs (http://threedailydelights.wordpress.com/) – I really appreciate your continued support!
Ever since I was a little child I have always thought the saddest thing is you cannot make people nice that are not nice and you cannot make people like you by wishing it so. I did not know when I was young that there were so many unpleasant, lost people in the world. Good luck and I pray that you straighten out those finances with the ex.
Hats off to you, Jackie! Thank you for being so honest.
WoW! You’re a strong woman with a big Heart…Love your blog:)
You have a lovely blog here! Thanks for stopping by The Brass Rag. Come back and see us again soon.
First off to you Jackie and your daughter Happy Holidays. Secondly thank you for stopping by my blog and visiting. 3rd thing is to address “dead beat dads” there are also dead beat moms…but to address the first and worst offenders.
I have been divorced from ex-wife for 16 years and my first and only obligation that I took very serious even to the point, that I have gone without so my daughters could have. Even when I was out of work and on disability my child-support went to my children and when I didn’t have a whole lot of money I still sent what I could. Even after all that because there was times that just weren’t good all the way around I still got behind on my child support. I owe arrears but they are minimal and actually will have them paid off this year.
Anyways as a loving father and my children have always come first because like you I believe it takes two to make children and raise them even if one is not in the home. To all the fathers out their it takes one act and moment in time to make you a father but it sure as hell doesn’t make you a dad.
I don’t own a car that runs, Im in debt up to my eyeballs and to infinity and beyond, but I sleep well at night knowing that 2 of my children made it through college and my youngest is the mother of my beautiful
granddaughter and she will be 18 years old in a few days, so technically my obligation financially ends soon. But my obligation as a Daddy and a grand dad will never end.
Thanks for sharing and come back anytime. look forward to reading more of your post.
TST
HI. I have nominated you for the Blog of the Year 2012. Please visit my blog for the rules. Renee
http://www.positiveboomer.net
Hi Jackie. Thanks for dropping by my blog. You have quite an extensive one here.
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Hi! You don’t know me but I stop by here often. I love your blog and have nominated it for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award!
Jackie,
Praise God, that you have been able to wrench your life away from acohol and make a life for you and your daughter. I admire people who can admit when they are wrong and then turn things around. I also want to thank you for noting my blog http://ptl4.wordpress.com/ as a related article to your post. You have a great blog and I will read it with more interest. Again thank you and keep up the good work, both in your blog and your life. Ron
Thanks for noting my blog http://thisdaywithgod.wordpress.com/ as a related article on your post. Amazing story you have and great blog.
I am sorry for your sorrow in life. I raised three step children that were not mine. Two of them I sent thru college. Five years at Baylor, for a step-daughter, now dead, and four years for a step son. After fourteen years I divorced their mother. All three of these children basically gave me the finger. Oh….the third one was a druggie, and today after being in and out of Huntsville prison, in his mid 40′s, he still lives with his Mother. I thank God every day for the wonderful woman I now have been with for over twenty years. I always look back at this past part of my life as basic dog shit.
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